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ADD Audio Recording Lecture Notes 9 Communicator Styles (Most people will choose 3-4 styles which represents Style Profile) ● Dominant: Tends to come on strong, take charge of social situations, speak frequently and otherwise control conversations ● Dramatic: Likes to act out the point physically and vocally. Tells jokes and stories and often exaggerates to make the point ● Contentious: Loves to argue, quick to challenge others, precise about defining things, often insists that others show proof ● Animated: Expresses self nonverbally: constantly gestures, using a wide variety of facial expressions, face and eyes reveal emotions ● Impression-leaving: Says thing in a memorable fashion, people usually don’t forget them easily ● Relaxed: Comes across as calm and collected during interaction, especially under pressure. The rhythm and flow of speech are rarely affected by feelings of nervousness ● Attentive: Listens to others very carefully and lets them know it by giving nonverbal feedback such as eye contact and nodding. Shows empathy ● Open: Readily reveals personal information. Openly expresses emotions. ● Friendly: Gives positive feedback to recognize, encourage, and reinforce other people ● Precise: Is good with details; values accuracy Arrested Development: Find communication styles & provide examples Michael: Dramatic, Dominant, Contentious ● Moves around a lot ● Raises Voice ● Does not approve of mother Lucille: Attentive, Friendly, Dominant, Relaxed ● Looks at him ● Hugs ● Starts communication ● Always Calm Rhetorical Sensitivity ● Noble Self: Emphasizes consistency ○ Brutally honest ● Rhetorical Reflector: Malleable self based on desires of others ○ Tell you what they feel/what others want to feel ● Rhetorical Sensitive: Fluctuating and contextual ○ Sensitive to needs of other people

Attachment Style: (Research was done with infants separated from caregiver) ● Secure (low avoidance-low anxiety) - comfortable with intimacy and dependence. Warm relationships with little self-doubt. Love, trust, happiness ● Preoccupied (low avoidance-high anxiety) - searching desperately for intimacy, looking for that “ideal love”. Rescue or completion, clingy, possessive ● Avoidant/Dismissive (high avoidance-low anxiety) - closeness leads to uncomfortable feelings, fear or intimacy, don’t trust others, don’t expect relationships to last, rejection, dent need for affection ● Anxious-ambivalent/Fearful (high avoidance-high anxiety) - want close relationships, fear of abandonment, self-doubt, emotionally volatile Self Disclosure (Info you reveal about yourself that others don’t know about you and cannot get from other sources); Disclosure to be reciprocal ● Flooded Disclosure ○ Someone is lonely and don't have many conversation partner. Opportunity to share everything about themselves with other people. Makes the receiver feel uncomfortable. ● Under Disclosure ○ Do not disclose enough when appropriate in the relationship. Refuse to open up in the relationship. Typically in men. ● Premature Disclosure ○ Admit intimate details to quickly in the relationship. Happen in dating. Johari Window Known to Self

Not Known to Self

Known to Others

Open

Blind

Not Known to Others

Hidden

Unknown

Rules for Self Disclosure ● Disclosures should be appropriate for the topic at hand and fit the flow of conversation ● Begin with sage, non-risky disclosures ● Disclose in small doses ● Match the level and amount of the other person’s disclosure ● The style of disclosure can be as important as substance ● Reserve your most important disclosures for significant, ongoing relationships...