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Emily Toups SOC 214 Stacey Blalock Henry, Ph.D. 13 February 2019 Chapter Four Summary !

In this chapter, the book discusses the pitfalls of relationships and how these certain

undesirable characteristics and qualities a partner may have or is prone to, can lead to an unhappy relationship or even the ending of a relationship. Under this topic the author lists out the many different undesirable characteristics of potential partners including qualities such as: controlling, narcissism, poor impulse control, hypersensitivity, inflated egos, perfectionism, insecurities, controlled by another, substance abuse, and unhappy people. In this section they discuss how these character traits are the opposite of what one should be looking for. These characteristics are each described and discussed in detail about how and why they are negative aspects of a person and should be avoided when looking for a partner. The second heading on this chapter discusses the female attraction to “Bad Boys” and in this section the author discuss why females are attracted to males with these “bad” characteristics. The author notes an important term called “dark triad personality” which they define as “narcism, deceitfulness, and lack of empathy.” These men that are discussed are known to be manipulative and highly skilled at promiscuity. The author states that through research they found concluded that females were drawn to this kind of man, despite knowing that they were not the only sexual or emotionally involved partner due to her interest in wanting to change him. The next topic discussed is engagement and how or when couples decided that they were a couple. Through this section the author point out four markers such as relationship events,

affection or sexual events, children, and time or money. They also discuss the significance of engagement and how it can transform a relationship and become official in the public eye. The next topic of brief discussion for this chapter is premarital counseling which states that couples going to premarital counseling can be open with each other about personal feelings, thoughts, values, goals and expectations within the relationship. This expirence allows couples to explore interpersonal ideas that they may not be comfortable with discussing to their partner in everyday life. Visiting a partners parents is the next discussion point of this chapter which involves the ideas of getting to know your partner better through their family and the dynamic of them. Children usually seek parental approval regarding partners no matter what age. This is also another way to discover how one might look further on in the future through meeting family members. It is also a key test in determining compatibility with a partner through how they act and respond with family members.

Questions for Discussion: 1. Which, if any, of the characteristics listed under the first topic would you be willing to overlook regarding a partner? Why or why not? Explain. 2. Do you think the idea of the female attraction to the “Bad Boy” is a more reassuring issue now? Or do you think it has somewhat changed from what is described in the book? Explain....