Chapter 7 Friendships - Rebecca Thomas PDF

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Activity A. Make a list of your closest friend B. What makes them your friends Intimate Relationship A. “A close relationship between two adults involving emotional attachment, fulfillment of psychological needs, or interdependence.” B. 7 Aspects of Intimacy 1. 2. 3. 4. 5.

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Knowledge: share information Interdependence: members need and influence each other Caring: affection above what is “normal” Trust: expectation of fairness Responsiveness: concern for welfare

6. Mutuality: shared identity “us” “we” 7. Commitment: indefinite togetherness Other Aspects of Friendships A. Capitalization: our friends are excited when good things happen to us! B. Social Support: affection, acceptance, hugging, advice, and material support ($, goods)

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Friendship Across the Lifespan A. How can normative life events (e.g. having children, going from school to fulltime work, etc.) influence friendship? B. What about non-normative events (e.g. loss of a spouse) influence friendship? C. How can friendship change as people go from being 2 to 92?

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Gender and Friendship A. Same-sex 1. Do males or females have more friends? 2. Do males or females have more intimate friendships (same sex)? 3. How do female-female friendships differ from male-male friendships? B. Women’s friendships involve more emotional sharing & self-disclosure (face to face) 1. More talking on the phone 2. More talking about personal matters like their relationships 3. More self-disclosure 4. More emotional support & affection

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C. Men’s friendships involve more shared activities (side to side) 1. More talking about impersonal things like sports Can you have an intimate friendship with a pet

A. 7 Aspects of Intimacy 1. Knowledge: share information 2. Interdependence: members need and influence each other 3. Caring: affection above what is “normal” 4. Trust: expectation of fairness 5. Responsiveness: concern for welfare 6. Mutuality: shared identity “us” “we” 7. Commitment: indefinite togetherness B. Man’s Best Friend 1. Allen et al., 2002 a) Furry friends vs. human friends b) Mental math: Count backwards from 7,654! c) Three conditions (1) Alone (2) With pet (3) With spouse d) DVs (1) Heart rate (2) Blood pressure e) Results (1) The presence of the pets were soothing- less arousal (2) The MOST arousal happened with the spouse! (a) Why? C. True Experiment: Furry Friends 1. Business men living alone a) Randomly assigned (1) Adopt a pet (2) Stay without b) DV: Blood Pressure c) Results: Increase in blood pressure half as large under stress for the men that had a pet VII.

d) (Side note- other people’s pets can also be comforting too) Friendship vs. Love A. Compared to romances, friendships are: 1. Less passionate 2. Less exclusive 3. Less confining, entailing fewer obligations to one’s partner

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Friendships involve sex? Are these frienndships A. Hookups B. Friends with benefits C. Booty calls D. One night stands E. F*** buddies F. Other terms? G. Intimacy? H. Commitment? I. Sexual exclusivity? Friends with Benefits Reatinships A. Sexual relationships between two people in a non-romantic friendship B. Common: over half of college students on multiple campuses report experience with FWBRs (McGinty, Knox, & Zusman, 2007; Mongeau, Ramirez, & Vorrell, 2003; Puentes et al., 2008)

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C. In a UTSA freshman sample, 35% of females and 43% of males had at least one FWBR in the past year FWB: The Literature A. Friends with benefits: sexual relationships between two people in a nonromantic friendship 1. over half of college students in multiple samples have participated in FWBRs (McGinty et al., 2007; Mongeau et al., 2003; Puentes et al., 2008) a) A type of hook-up? (Claxton & van Dulmen, 2013; Heldman & Wade, 2010) b) A distinct relationship? (Garcia, Reiber, Massey, & Merriwether, 2012) Elements of FWB Relationships A. Discussion of relationship rules (Wentland & Reissing, 2011) B. When to contact each other C. Level of emotional intimacy D. Exclusivity? 1. (Because yes, some are exclusive!) 2. And some are committed??? Commitment in Friends with Benefits Relationships A. • Vanderdrift, Lehmiller, and Kelly (2012) B. Recruited adult participants on Craigslist and Social Psychology Network C. All in FWBRs D. Age range 18-65, (M = 28.7, SD = 9.68) E. Measured commitment to the friendship and commitment to the sexual relationship • Used investment model...