Family Cohesion and Flexibility PDF

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paper on cohesion and flexibility in general families...

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Raquel Pulido April 10, 2021 BHS- 430

After answering the questions in our text, I learned that our family does not see each other in the same way in certain areas. The individuals that I interviewed consisted of two elders (60 years old) and one in late 30’s. My immediate family consists of my only sibling and my parents, which are the individuals that I interviewed. I attempted to be as honest as possible for the best results of this assignment. First and foremost we all seemed to agree that our togetherness is important and consistent within the family, even with distant relatives. We all agreed that we have special times with each other. Loyalty is important to us and has been instilled in us since we were young. In my answers, I felt that my family is close, however one of my family members felt otherwise. My sibling and I both agreed that leadership is shared (even now) among both parents. Growing up the discipline was strict, but we both agreed that we were very much of a work-hard-play-hard type of people. We also agreed that our parents are still in charge. We both know that we are adults however, whenever it comes to making decisions such as buying a house, or a car we both reach out to our parents for advice.

In areas such as activities, there is a difference. For example, the idea of fun for my parents is not exactly the same for me and my brother. We like to go out and dance until later in the night, but with my parents they like to go in early and really do not care for dancing. Their idea of fun is being home or going on long drives for a road trip. Another example where we did not see things the same is rules and roles. For me, my husband cooks our dinner, with my immediate family my

mother does all the cooking and my father does not do much in the kitchen. My brother and his wife, she cooks and so does he, but his wife does more. This could be because my brother works and my sister in law does not.

I think that the difference in responses has to do with the generation change. Our family is open to change, more so for my mother, rather than my father. I learned that my father has a difficult time with change and that this may be because of the way his parents were with him. Over all, I realized that in some areas we do see things the same way, and in others we are different. I think that my generation has a different way of being with the children of the household than the way my parents dealt with us when we were younger. I feel that these questions helped me realize that my family does have differences in areas that I least thought we would....