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STUDY GUIDE #11

SFL 160

Study Guide for Quiz #11  Know whether becoming or finding the right person is more important o Successful marriage is as much the result of your own becoming and committing as it is finding a right person to marry o The more ready you become the more you will know who to find, the better you will be at finding, and the more the Spirit of the Lord will guide you  Know the statement from class about what is really happening when we are dating and “falling in love” o We choose who we are going to choose to love every single day  Know what Dr. Carroll says love is and is not in marriage o Human can be made to infer the false belief that the blend of affection, fear, and desire which they call “being in love” is the only thing that makes marriage either happy or holy. o The intention of loyalty to a partnership for mutual help, for the preservation of chastity, and for the transmission of life o Feelings of love and happiness are present in good marriages, but they are best understood as the fruits of those relationships and not necessarily the roots  Know the three dimensions of Sternberg’s Love Triangle o Commitment o Intimacy o Passion  Know the 8 types of love relationships based on Sternberg’s Love Triangle o Non-love

STUDY GUIDE #11

SFL 160

o Liking o Infatuation o Empty love o Romantic Love o Companionate Love o Fatuous Love o Consummate Love  Know what everything means in the Ecology of Marriage Tree Model o Soil = husband’s family experience o Soil = wife’s family experience o Roots = husband’s personal readiness o Roots = wife’s personal readiness o Climate = social context o Couple processes o Marital outcomes  Know the key aspects of Personal Readiness o Personal security 

Stronger sense of self worth

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Attachment security

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Affect regulation

 Know which stage of dating is missing in the current culture o Paired dating state (18 -)

STUDY GUIDE #11

SFL 160

 Know the concept that teaches about the fundamental human need to belong and connect o Our deepest human desire is to love and to be love, to belong  Know what Gottman’s research shows are the determining factors in whether wives and husbands feel satisfied with sex, romance and passion in marriage o The quality of the couple’s friendship  Know what John Gottman calls the process of developing a deep knowledge of the other person in a couple relationship o Love map  Know what percentage of problems in marriage are unsolvable, according to Gottman o 69%  Know what John Gottman says is key to addressing unresolved problems in marriage that create conflict o Feeling and communicating basic acceptance of your partner’s personality o It’s just a fact that people can change only if they feel that they are basically liked and accepted as they are.  Know the story of the woman who as a Miamaid created a list of things she desired in a companion...