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The Ultimate Texting Guide The Ultimate Texting Guide by Tyler Tray © 2008, All Rights Reserved www.TipsToTexting.com The Ultimate Texting Guide FOR MEN Never wonder what to text again! Over 101 proven txt messages to build attraction, get you a date and more! By Tyler Tray Legal Disclosures Distrib...
The Ultimate Texting Guide
The Ultima te Te xting G uide by Tyle r Tra y © 2008, All Rig hts Re se rve d
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The Ultimate Texting Guide FOR MEN N e ve r w on de r w h a t t o t e x t a ga in !
Ove r 1 0 1 pr ove n t x t m e ssa ge s t o bu ild a t t r a ct ion , ge t you a da t e a n d m or e !
By Tyle r Tr a y
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Content ‐ To visit a topic, simply click the title or heading ‐
Introduction
Overview So what is attraction
Section #1
Most guys fail text messaging because How men succeed at text messaging
Section #2 Underlying philosophy in relationships The purpose of text messaging Text or call When you want to meet up Guidelines for texting
Section #3
How to flirt The key points to flirting Three easy ways to flirting
Section #4 Making the first initial text ‐ killer text messages Text messages to create attraction The four step process to meeting up
Section #5 Real life text messaging examples Texting Conversation #1 Texting Conversation #2 Texting Conversation #3
Bonus Section #6
Making the phone call
5 points to hit when talking to her on the phone Decoding a woman’s text
Section #7
Safety concerns for text messaging
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Introduction Overview Text messaging has rapidly grown in the past few years. Starting in 2005, text messaging has more than doubled every year and it’s not going to stop any time soon. ZDNet Research stated there will be 2.3 trillion text messages sent by 2010. With those facts, it’s clear that if a man wants to be successful with women, he must understand how to text message. It’s a simple skill, but so many men fail to recognize how crucial it is and they miss opportunities because of that. A while back I realized this evolution in communication and put a lot of time into maximizing my ability in it. Truth is, I am more of a quiet guy because my voice is bad (hoarse and scratchy) most of the year and I knew text messaging would be my way to overcome that crux. The first step I took was not to meet women, but instead, just get
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their numbers. I did this through online dating, and quick approaches. My best “quick approach” went something like this… I would walk up saying a few words that built rapport (meaning feeling or relating about the same thing) and then in an urgent way I would take off and before leaving say, “Hey, I got to go. Here, put your number in my phone, we’ll keep in touch.” From that I would start building on my texting techniques and strategies. Within a few months of trial and error, I started to see a drastic change in my success with women. Because of my texting abilities, a lot of guys started seeing this increase of women wanting to be with me and I started getting a lot of questions from them about what to text. The more I coached, the more I started to see the big picture of where guys were screwing up and how to exactly be successful at text messaging. And that’s what brought me to writing the first ebook ever written for texting, The Ultimate Texting Guide.
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Most men that read this eBook will have a paradigm shift and they might finish the ebook saying, “Oh, that’s how you text women to build attraction.” I say this because most men are only texting men and friends and have very little knowledge in texting women they desire. This means their usual style of texting friends will carry over into texting the women they like and it doesn’t work, because you don’t talk to your friends the same way you talk to a woman. To be successful with women you must be able to flirt and build attraction and sexual tension. One of the most important points to this ebook is to show you and give you the understanding of what it’s like to really create attraction with women. Before we start into the actual texting part, you need to understand a few important points. First, you need to understand that women are different from men and will respond in different ways. I am going to present to you what works for me and the men that I’ve coached. You should take what you learn and then change things up a bit to match your style. Keep in mind however that staying true and
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being congruent to a certain way of texting and being gets the most results in the end. Also, women will test you to see if you are the real deal and it’s crucial that you can keep going and not miss a beat. Women will see that you are in control and eventually they will come around and respond exactly the way you want. I’m not saying to be controlling but that you have to have control over your emotions and don’t buy into her tests. Now here is the key where most men fail: To be successful with women you must communicate to them at their level… their Emotional Level! Really think about this: Why do men want to be with women? Why do women want to be with men? What do you really think is the answer? There are a lot of different answers to these questions but the one thing that’s universal is that we all want a feeling. And feeling is what drives our lives; especially women’s lives. Think about it, what do you feel when you are with an attractive woman or are even around one? That’s a feeling that’s triggered from the attractive woman and it pulls you towards her. The most important “feeling” that will get any
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woman to want you is attraction. Without attraction, a woman can’t “feel” anything for you.
So What Is Attraction? First, the great part about attraction is that Attraction is an uncontrollable feeling and it’s a biological response. Women don’t logically feel attracted to a man. They have a gut‐level emotional response that creates attraction. Women need to feel attraction in order to desire and fall in love. What do you think is the best way to trigger these emotions? I have found that experiences or thinking of an experience is the best way. Obviously, you can’t physically experience being playful with a woman via text; but you can, however, give her those same feelings that come with playing. I want you to do something. Take in a deep breath and hold it for a few seconds… then, let it go all the way until you are fully relieved. Do it one more time and notice how you feel. Now, think back to the time when you first rode a big roller coaster. Go through the steps as to how
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you felt. First, you’ll feel a little anxiety and danger for your life as you step inside the cart and give over your power and control to this ride. What is the feeling as it takes you up the first hill? The tension in your body is building suspense towards the top. Once at the top, you hold your breath in anticipation. Now what? A complete rush as you plummet to the ground! What happens at the bottom of the hill… a sense of relief, right. How about when the ride is over? It’s now fun and you feel safe because you’re in control again. But you now crave that roller coaster feeling again. Close your eyes and imagine this in your own mind. Breathe in at the top of the hill and out as you go down… feel the relief at the end of your breath and notice how it is taken away again as you zoom up the next hill or loop. This is the natural feeling that comes in wave or rhythm, if you will. Now what was the difference between that little process you did and actually going on the roller coaster? There’s only a slight difference between actually being there, experiencing the roller coaster, and
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actually experiencing it in your mind. They both trigger the same emotions. Think of how reality TV shows are using this model. Reality shows are always simple, easy‐going situations and everything goes just dandy… Not even close! People want the intensity of feeling the ups and downs in the show ‐ we love watching the arguments and then we love watching them settle down and make friends again. Feeling is strongly connected to your breathing. Next time you are with a woman, notice your own breathing when talking to her and your rise and fall in your emotional state. Observe this, as well in the women you interact with. Say something that gets them to hold their breath in anticipation, and then let her feel relieved to exhale and breathe again. Women are hoping to find guys to give them this emotional roller coaster. What makes riding on a street bike so appealing to a woman? Put yourself in her place. She is giving up her control to you. She may be a little nervous and reluctant, but the excitement is too intriguing
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because her life is potentially at risk. The ride is usually fast and somewhat dangerous. She gets that rush of exhilaration. When it’s over, she feels a sense of relief that the danger is over and at the same time feeling an adrenaline rush. As long as it wasn’t too dangerous she will now trust you and feel more comfortable being protected around you. And the best part is now she has a feeling connected to you and that is never going to leave. Women thrive off emotion or chemical interactions. Stimulate their feelings; take them on an emotional roller coaster and make sure you keep her on her toes. Try to keep it positive, but remember, negative feelings can be good too. Keep it light and fun and then jump into serious stuff and then back to light and fun. Whatever you do, don’t be boring. Boredom is one of greatest fears in life. Why is that? Because there is no feeling in boredom. Point here is: think about creating some kind of feeling in all of your text messages.
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Section #1 Most guys fail at text messaging because… • They come across too nice.
• They text the full 160 characters while a woman is only texting less than 20. • They say too much and are too nice saying it.
• They try having a conversation via text. Save the whole conversation thing for when you’re in person or at least on the phone. • They follow the woman’s flow of conversation and answer all of her questions. • They don’t ask them out to do something. • They don’t try to get to know the girl
• They don’t include the woman in their responses. Women are more interested when something involves them. So try to relate
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things back to her. Implying her involvement in something is a creative way to do that. • Their texts aren’t written to be responded too. For example, if a woman writes “Hey, what did you do last night?” and the response she gets is, “Went to the movies.” It leaves her with nothing, no emotion, no fun, just dullness. Instead, say something like “Hey, I saw a movie and it got me thinking about you.” She says something like “Oh really, what’s that?” Then say something like “There was this adorable little puppy, that whined like you.” • They have long messages that make too much sense. Keeping a text logical is boring. Instead, spice it UP! • They are always available when a woman texts them.
• They write boring texts. Instead use punctuation, like ALL CAPS, exclamation marks, question marks, etc. Every so often use a smiley face☺. Use descriptive words and adjectives. Match the feeling of the text that fits the emotions involved in what you’re
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writing. For instance, if I saw a movie, I’m not going to be all excited like “Hey! I just saw a movie!” • Texting “Ok” is a waste of a text. If it must be said then follow it with something like “Ok, talk to ya later.” • They seek the woman’s approval.
• They agree to everything she wants and says instead of putting up a challenge.
How men succeed in the texting game… • They write short, witty, fun text messages that get the girl in an emotional state. • They don’t answer questions, but lead the conversation. • They don’t seek approval.
• They are a challenge for the woman.
• They tell women what they are doing and suggest or imply they come too. They never invite or ask: “Hey I’m going to go out, you
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got time for some fun?” or “I want to get to know you better so come join me for dinner.” • They banter back and forth and leave the interaction on a high note, by either not responding back or talking to them later or by ending it. • They have high value and high status so they are busy with their lives and women can pick up on that vibe. • They know how to have fun and be social so women don’t get a needy feeling. • They lead exciting adventurous lives and women get a feel of that in the text messages. • They are interesting, mysterious, and challenging.
• They end the interaction first either by saying “see ya later” or just dead air, meaning no more responding. They have high value or appear to have high value. Do you think Brad Pitt is going to sit there and text back and forth forever or respond immediately after he gets a text? The point is the busier you are with your life the more important you become. This is a good thing in case you
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missed it. Your time is valuable and anytime you are with a woman she will then feel valuable. Men succeed in texting because they are aware of what women respond desirably to and can think about what they’re going to say and be creative about it. Texting is perfect for developing better skills in communicating with women. I say this because women are generally more experienced communicators. So being able to think about what you’re going to say and saying it the right way gives you a great advantage.
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Section #2 Before you start sending text messages, it’s important to understand why you want women in your life so you can create the right approach. You need to understand the real purpose in texting and the difference between texting and calling. And lastly, you need to get yourself in the right mindset for what kind of guy to be whenever text messaging women.
Underlying philosophy in relationships • Attraction ‐ she’s your little fling
• Connection ‐ she’s your best friend
• Attraction and Connection ‐ she’s your girlfriend
Decide what you want and need to work on. If you want a girlfriend, then you must first know how to attract a woman, and then develop a deep level of connection/rapport. Getting to a deeper
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connection allows a woman to open up and be vulnerable. You will often here a woman say something like “He sees something in me that no one else sees.” If you want to just find women for a good time, then you must think about creating sexual tension. For a fling relationship, you need to have both connection and sexual tension in the relationship. This is where you bag on her, flirt, tease, and imply things together. This is a seductive game that has to be played a certain way.
The purpose of text messaging “The purpose of text messaging is to flirt, create a little connection, and get a woman thinking about you.” Texting is another great tool to meet up with women and allows you to come across in many different ways. Always aim to get an emotional reaction ‐ such as the possibility of danger, being somewhat kind, challenging her, giving her doubt about you liking her, showing
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interest, or not showing interest. When you use a combination of these, it will leave her always wondering about you and where she stands. This by itself gets you on her mind. Remember, once a woman knows you and knows what you will do, she will stop thinking about you. Be creative and uncertain so she can not pin you down. Attraction is a feeling that you need her to feel to get her to desire you. But most importantly that feeling has to be backed up with consistent thought. Meaning, the more you think about someone, the more you want to be with that person. This is the beauty of texting: regardless of the time of day or who she’s with, you can stay in her thoughts and she’ll keep you on her mind. Those consistent thoughts about you are very powe...