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Alexis Delgado English 105 April 10, 2019 Professor Brody The Monstrosities HOOK: Do you have a roommate like mine? A roommate who leaves their dirty dishes with half eaten food still on the plate out on the table for days at a time? INTRO: Here at GCU, freshman females tend to not pick up their dirty dishes and put them in the sink where they belong. They leave their dishes out with half eaten food on them for as long as it takes their roommates to pick it up. These types are roommates are what we like to call, the monstrosities. THESIS: The monstrosities make it difficult for roommates to live with them, but instead of getting irritated, the roommates should be grateful for the opportunity to learn how to have patience and perseverance for when they have a family of their own. CAUSES: It is important to understand the countless causes of the monstrosities in GCU dorms. It can be as simple as they are just lazy and just don’t feel like walking five steps to put it in the sink, they enjoy living in their own filth, or even they simply forgot to pick it up. Also, they know that if they leave it out long enough, their roommates will pick it up, and they just don’t see anything wrong with it. It also can be as complex as the way they were raised and whether or not they were an only child. Mancillas (2006) stated, “It is commonly assumed… the position of being an only child has detrimental effects on an individual’s adjustment, personality, and character” (p. 268). It is presumed that the situation of being an only child has a harmful result on a person’s adaptation, persona, and nature. (Mancillas, 2006). Being raised as an only child, an individual is more likely to be spoiled and narcissistic. The monstrosities being raised by parents who always gave them everything, never had them do chores, and always picked up after them, are more likely to do it as an adult and living on their own.

EFFECTS: The effects of the monstrosities in GCU dorms has an impact on everyone involved. When they leave their dishes out, the food will get hard and could potentially ruin the dish. When food gets left in dishes, it is almost impossible to scrub off the left-over pieces that were left in the dish. When monstrosities don’t clean up their dishes, the food will rot making the whole room smell and making it impossible to live in. The roommates will be fed up with picking up after an adult. No one should have to clean up after an adult, they are old enough to pick up their own things when necessary. If they keep relying on their roommates to clean up after them, it will cause roommate tension, and no one will get along. McDonald & Asher (2013) stated, “Understanding the factors that increase negative responses within conflict… is important because how individuals respond in conflict affects their success in close relationships and may negatively affect… from peers” (p.500). Comprehending the elements that make bad responses grow in disagreement is crucial because how people react in certain problems influence their achievement in close friendships and could potentially badly influence their friends. The effects of the monstrosities aren’t just affecting

the people they live with, but it is affecting everyone involved in their lives. If it keeps happening, no one is going to want to live with them or essentially no one is going to want to be in their room.

SOLUTIONS: While many solutions have been tried to in an attempt to solve the problem of the monstrosities in GCU dorms, nothing has seemed to work. Trying to sit them down and talk to them about their cleaning habits wouldn’t work because then they would just get irritated and think that the roommates are trying to control the way they live their life. Another solution that wouldn’t work is to make a chore chart. This may work for the first couple days, but then they will go back to living the way they were before. A freshman female at GCU stated, “I would do the same thing back to them and put them through what they are putting other people through” (Jacobs, 2019). This solution would not work because by throwing all their dirty dishes in their room would only cause tension and they would just put it right back where they were. This would then cause the room to look and smell like a dumpster Another freshman female at GCU commented, “I would tell the RA and have a roommate meeting because clearly they aren’t listening to what me and my roommates are asking of her, so maybe if someone older than them told them something they will listen” (Misenas, 2019). This wouldn’t work either because then the monstrosities will get mad that the roommates told on them and it could potentially make the problem worse out of pettiness.

NEW PERSPECTIVE A new perspective on the problem can eliminate anger toward the monstrosities and allow everyone involved to be happier. Living with people who don’t clean up after themselves can be frustrating, but after thinking about it and looking ahead, they are preparing people for their futures. As people get older, they get married and essentially have families of their own. When having a family, kids are messy and never clean up after themselves, growing up living with the monstrosities will give those people the patience and perseverance for when they have children of their own. “At an even deeper level…the art of parenting is…about managing our own parenthood and our own ensuing development. When we parents do that, generally our children flourish, and everyone grows, psychologically and spiritually” (Hughes, 2005, p. 391). At an even profound level, the act of parenting is about controlling our own lives and our own resulting growth. When parents do that, kids thrive, and everyone will thrive, emotionally and religiously (Hughes, 2005). Having a new perspective can influence lives by making them grateful for what they are going through.

CONCLUSION: Explain why readers should act on your new perspective. BE PERSUASIVE Explain what will happen if readers don’t act and why that is undesirable. Connect back to hook and motivate readers to change

Although having a sloppy roommate is annoying and can present health issues by leaving dirty dishes filled with food for days at a time, I feel it is important to learn a life lesson from the problem. As we start having a family of our own, we will certainly be presented with issues like a monstrosity of a roommate in college. However, there is enough stress in college, especially as a freshman, so just learning to deal with a messy roommate, may bring needed peace during this chaotic time of our lives. Having a messy roommate will bring emotions out of us that we did not expect to have emerge while in college. These emotions are anger, disgust, and sometimes resentment. If we stop and think of our childhoods, we may have seen all of these emotions from our parents towards us. So, at the risk of seeming weak and continually cleaning up after a messy roommate, we can take real life lessons with us after college life. If we do not approach the monstrosity with patience and tolerance, we may go crazy and start to slide in our own goals of doing well in school. I would recommend to anyone who has a monstrosity of a roommate to evaluate what their priorities are and choose a reasonable approach that best works for the personalities in their situation. Don’t feel it is your responsibility to care for a grown adult, but think reasonably and take the situation as a challenge and learn to develop life lessons through, what you may feel, is a bad situation and grow as a person, adult, a decent human being.

EX Look at this new perspective like I did bc I changed, and it doesn’t irritate me anymore. I know that in the future I will become a better parent

Causes research

It is commonly assumed that for a child to develop normally, he or she should have siblings and that, in itself, the position of being an only child has detrimental effects on an individual’s adjustment, personality, and character. For example, it is commonly believed that only children are spoiled, selfish, lonely, and maladjusted (Roberts & Blanton, 2001)

https://lopes.idm.oclc.org/login?url=https://search.ebscohost.com/login.aspx? direct=true&db=a9h&AN=21639264&site=eds-live&scope=site Mancillas, A. (2006). Challenging the Stereotypes About Only Children: A Review of the Literature and Implications for Practice. Journal of Counseling & Development, 84(3), 268–275. https://doi-org.lopes.idm.oclc.org/10.1002/j.1556-6678.2006.tb00405.x Effects research Understanding the factors that increase negative responses within conflict, defined as an interpersonal, behavioral event involving opposition (Laursen & Collins, 1994), is important because how individuals respond in conflict affects their success in close relationships (e.g., Gottman, 1994; Laursen & Pursell, 2009) and may negatively affect the support that young people come to depend on from peers

https://lopes.idm.oclc.org/login?url=https://search.ebscohost.com/login.aspx? direct=true&db=eric&AN=EJ1014480&site=eds-live&scope=site McDonald, K. L., & Asher, S. R. (2013). College Students’ Revenge Goals across Friend, Romantic Partner, and Roommate Contexts: The Role of Interpretations and Emotions. Social Development, 22(3), 499–521. Retrieved from https://search-ebscohostcom.lopes.idm.oclc.org/login.aspx?direct=true&db=eric&AN=EJ1014480&site=edslive&scope=site

Solutions research https://lopes.idm.oclc.org/login?url=https://search.ebscohost.com/login.aspx? direct=true&db=pdh&AN=2017-02062-001&site=eds-live&scope=site Kenton Clayton April 9, 2018 “Confront them and tell them to have respect for the other people living in the dorm with them. It wouldn’t work because they would feel offended and be petty about it, creating a bad atmosphere” Skylar Jacobs April 10, 2019

“Do the same thing back to them and put them through what they are putting other people through, but that wouldn’t work because the whole room would then be a dumpster” New Perspective At an even deeper level a paradox emerges: the art of parenting is not really about managing the children and their development but about managing our own parenthood and our own ensuing development. When we parents do that, generally our children flourish, and everyone grows, psychologically and spiritually. When parents embrace fully the dynamic of their own parenting and its impact on their relationship with one another, their own potential for response to grace and subsequent growth is maximized, and so is that of their children.

https://lopes.idm.oclc.org/login?url=https://search.ebscohost.com/login.aspx? direct=true&db=rfh&AN=ATLA0001617230&site=eds-live&scope=site Hughes, R. D., III. (2005). Procreation and patience: the spirituality of parenting. Sewanee Theological Review, 48(4), 391–406. Retrieved from https://search-ebscohostcom.lopes.idm.oclc.org/login.aspx? direct=true&db=rfh&AN=ATLA0001617230&site=eds-live&scope=site...