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Prepare a list of the issues (identified in Chapter 3 of the Brammer text) related to each of the eight stages of the helping process. Briefly describe a situation to illustrate one issue listed at each stage....

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Learning Activity 1.8 Laura Lamarre ***FOR MARKS*** Prepare a list of the issues (identified in Chapter 3 of the Brammer text) related to each of the eight stages of the helping process. Briefly describe a situation to illustrate one issue listed at each stage.

Stage of Helping Process Entry - preparing the helpee and opening the relationship

Clarification- starting the problem or concern and reasons for seeking help

Issue Identified

Example of Issue

Readiness- the helpee may enter in to the helping relationship with feelings or an attitude that may impede the success of the relationship.

A helpee begins the helping relationship by being standoffish and negative to the mutual process of “laying the groundwork” for the relationship. T

Resistance- the conscious or unconscious reluctance to begin a helping relationship.

A helpee may avoid sharing information or opening up because they are embarrassed that they are seeking help and feel insecure that they were unable to handle their own problem.

Resisting Change- although both parties have made a commitment to a helping relationship, the helpee may resist the process of change.

A helpee continually comes to the appointments late, even though the time, place and date have been mutually decided and agreed upon.

Use of Questions: the helper directs too many, questions at the helpee.

A helper begins the discussion by asking multiple personal and emotional questions, leaving the helpee feeling threatened and overwhelmed.

Ownership of Problems: determining whom the problem belongs. Ex. One person or 2 people.

A parent seeks help for their teen acting out. After a lengthy discussion, it is revealed that the parent sees the teen as “acting out” when they cannot control all aspects of their life. The issue is not the child, but the

parents need for control. Structuring the Relationship: the nature, limits, goals, roles, responsibilities and commitment of the relationship outlined.

The helper failed to provide the helpee with adequate information regarding the structure of their relationship. This vagueness or lack of structure results in the helpee feeling stressed or anxious.

Structure Helpee Behaviour: the understanding by the helpee of their responsibility within the helping relationship.

The helping process stalls because the helpee is not open, honest and they are not taking responsibility for their choices or actions.

Relationship- building the helping relationship

Silence - a pause or silence in discussion.

During a meeting between the helper and helpee, the helpee stops sharing information. This may mean that the helpee is not comfortable sharing information, they have stalled in the helping process or they may need time to process. Silence may indicate that more work needs to be done build trust between the two parties

Exploration- exploring problems, formulating goals, planning, strategies, gathering facts, expressing deeper feelings, learning new skills.

Discouragement

While exploring their feelings and dissecting their problems regarding childhood trauma, the helpee may become overwhelmed and exhausted by the process and discouraged to continue the relationship.

Assertiveness of Helper

As the helper encourages the helpee to explore their feelings and dissect their problem(s), the encouragement may be too assertive or bold resulting in the helpee feeling pressured.

Structure- formulating the contract and the structure.

Transference of Feelings: the feelings of the helpee are directed and applied to the helper.

A helpee who is seeking support from a helper for their recent divorce may project feelings of anger, felt for their spouse, towards the helper and may become irritated with the helpers support/advice/questions.

Countransference of Feelings: the feelings of the helper are directed and applied to the helpee.

The helper may become angry and judgmental of the helpee who disclosed that they are involved in an extramarital affair, due to the helpers own experience with extramarital affairs and unresolved personal feelings..

Consolidation- exploring alternatives, working through feelings, practicing new skills.

During this phase, the helpee moves from discussing themselves, problems and possible plans into measurable action. A possible issue that could arise during this stage could be delay from the helpee.

After a plan has been agreed upon, the helpee may delay or put off exercising their plan. For example, the helpee may have had the goal of going to the career centre to get assistance writing their resume, but fail to do so.

Planning- developing a plan of action using strategies to resolve conflicts, reducing painful feelings, snd consolidating and generalizing new skills or behaviours to continue selfdirected activities.

During this stage, bringing up new feelings or issues is discouraged since termination planning as well as independence planning are happening. Possible issues that could occur at this stage would be the prolonging of dependency upon the helper by the helpee, or the introduction of new problems.

When the discussion of ending the helping relationship is brought up, the helpee expresses their inability to carry out the plan of action, and that they will be unsuccessful in meeting goals without the helper’s support.

Termination- evaluating outcomes and terminating the relationship

Lingering Dependency: a reluctance to leave or terminate the relationship.

As the helping relationship is ending, the helpee continues to bring up new issues that they wish to address.

Fear of Separation: A helper

The helper prolongs the termination process with the

may prolong the terminations process due to their fear of separation from the helpee or their need for completeness

helpee in order to alleviate their feelings about the relationship ending.

Reference: Brammer, L., & Macdonald, G. (2003). The Helping Relationship Process and Skills. Toronto, Canada. Pearson Education....