Habit 4 - Think Win-Win - Kirat Dyot PDF

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7 Habits for Highly Effective Teens Habit 4: Think Win-Win Remember that Habits 4, 5, and 6 are all tied together. You will not think “Win-Win” or “seek first to understand,” or want to reach “synergy,” unless you firmly believe and live the Private Victory. Proactive people are secure about themselves.

Objectives: 1. Understand Win-Win 2. Understand how courage and consideration create win-win relationships 3. Understand how to create win-win agreements

Glossary: Lose-Lose: People with this paradigm approach differences with fear. They avoid conflicts, which therefore cannot be resolved, and everybody loses. Lose-Win: People with a lose-win mindset are easily intimidated and readily give in or go along with others; they fail to assert their own thoughts and feelings Win-Lose: These people achieve what they want at the expense of others Win-Win: These people believe that everyone can win; there is more than enough to go around for everyone, when each person’s needs and interests are understood and respected. It’s possible to find a solution that benefits and considers everyone

“Always be a first-rate version of yourself instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.” -Judy Garland

Life is an “All-You-Can-Eat” Buffet (When people only want to win and don’t care if others lose) Write about an experience where you had a win-lose mentality. How did you feel about it? What were the short-term and long-term consequences? Would you do things differently now? I think when my parents got divorced some short-term consequences were I wasn’t ready for it and it hit me pretty bad as in mental health and long-term are lead me no motivation for school my grades started slipping a lot I failed a few classes messed up relationship with my parents, can’t live with both of them in one house. I would have not let it effect my school that much.

Sometimes You’re the Windshield; Sometimes You’re the Bug (When people allow others to win even when it means they lose) Write about an experience where you practiced lose-win or someone acted in a lose-win way toward you. What were the short-term and long-term consequences? How did you feel? I can’t relate but with my younger brother I let him in video games and sports when we play so he gets happy about it. There is no consequences except the fact that it’s his fake winning and not real but that’s fine because he is just 7 years old. And it only makes me happy to see him happy.

Ring Around the Rosy … We All Fall Down (When people believe that if they go down, then others must go down with them) List some lose-lose examples from history or current news events. -

if an executioner offers the condemned the choice of death by being hanged, shot, or poisoned, all choices lead to death. In a relationship either you kiss someone else or flirt, or have sexual intercourse it’s all called cheating. If someone comes up to you and pushes you that is physical bullying, so if they do it by verbal, cyber or sexual they all are forms of bullying.

We’re in this Together (The belief that everyone can win; there is more than enough to go around for everyone) List a specific situation that you may face in the next seven days that will require win-win thinking – it might be during a music lesson, at work, in a challenging class, or at home with your family. How will you prepare yourself to think win-win? (Later record this experience as it actually happened. Write what the experience taught you about thinking win-win). So I actually did this last week for my Bhangra Dance class, there was going to be a competition between my team and the other team. So I made my team practice more so we could be as good as them and today was our competition and both of the teams worked really hard so we both won so both of the teams got tiny gifts to reward us for our hard work. Competition Gives Way to Cooperation List some activities in your personal life and school life that encourage:

Competition Cooperation Dancing and doing our moves at the Dance class same time. In class with friends Competition in games/ sports Working with new people Competition between 1-4 mom’s that whose child is better at school and gets good grade. Playing as a team in sports

Identify one situation in your personal life and school life that could be better for both people if win-lose or lose-win were replaced by win-win thinking – if cooperation replaced competition. Personal: compares between friends that which one is a better child, instead should help them with what they are struggling. School: working as a team and not as separate groups. Team work

Teacher: Talk through win-win scenarios. Example – Parent/Child Desired Results

Guidelines Resources

Accountability Benefits/Consequences

Parent wants child to mow the grass Child wants $$$ or use of the family car Mowing the lawn Keeping the lawn maintained Watering the flowers Saturday AM Keep grass 2-3” in length Lawn Mower Human Power Water, hoses, sprinklers, etc. Look at lawn together Saturday PM Both of us are pleased $ Weekly, $ compensation, use of car No Money. No car

Now it is your turn … Example – Teacher/Student

Desired Results

Guidelines Resources

Accountability Benefits/Consequences

Daily assignment due @ 6pm everyday Student if I complete it everyday by 5pm 10% extra credit. Learning, doing homework, working that brain teacher happy parents happy with grade Monday- Friday 6PM Write in your own words Laptop You brain Notebook Wi-Fi Pencil, easer Look at the grade every Friday Both of us happy with the grade 10% extra credit, good grade, parents happy No 10% extra credit, grade going down...