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BEAUTY OF CONFLICT

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Clair Canfield: The Beauty of Conflict XXX Stephen F. Austin State University COM 170.500: Interpersonal Communication Professor Spradley April 6, 2020

2 BEAUTY OF CONFLICT In Clair Canfield’s Tedx talk over the Beauty of Conflict, he emphasized how conflict is not always a adverse scenario, and in fact, it often results in a positive change. When confronting conflict, Canfield states that the key steps are first to recognize what the conflict is about, then recognize why you might be stuck, and finally, speak with responsibility. Within these steps, he also implements an acronym when working through a conflict in a relationship known as VOCAB. Moreover, the V stands for vulnerability, or one’s willingness to open up and be entirely honest with themselves and the other party. Next, the O stands for ownership, the ability to be accountable for our actions, emotions, and choices in conflict. The C represents communication, or arguably the key to any successful conflict result, which involves questioning, listening, and expressing, both nonverbally and verbally. In addition, the A in VOCAB is for acceptance, representing the ability to accept the reality of the situation and problem. Finally, the B stands for boundaries, otherwise known as rules, that are established at the get-go that is agreeably acceptable for those involved in the conflict. Furthermore, after analyzing Canfield’s assessment over conflict, I do agree with his points and see the positive potential it can create. In other words, I find conflict to be beautiful in many ways. First, conflict is beautiful because it allows the opportunity to grow as a person, but also the chance to grow and improve a relationship. In addition, by going through his steps in VOCAB, it displays a sense of respect and support to who you are communicating with, which is also beautiful. In my personal life in situations of conflict, I plan on implementing Canfield’s advice and perspective. For example, my family is currently in quarantine due to the Coronavirus outbreak. I find that we often come in contact with daily conflict because we are constantly surrounded by each other, which leaves room for annoyance and a lack of independence. Also, when in conflict with my boyfriend, I opt to be calm and respectful, but oftentimes, emotions can

3 BEAUTY OF CONFLICT run high and overshadow. Moreover, my biggest take away was that change can good, should not be feared, and is a means of growth and strength. By using Canfield’s advice, I believe we can form a stronger relationship by using vulnerability, ownership, communication, acceptance, and especially boundaries.

4 BEAUTY OF CONFLICT Reference Canfield, C. (2016). The beauty of conflict. Retrieved from https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=915&v=55n9pH_A0O8&feature=emb_title...