Title | Chapter 9 Notes |
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Chapter 9 Notes with Gira...
Topic 9 Close relationships A major predictor of happiness Determinants of attraction Propinquity o At work on a micro level o The people you interact with most are likely to become your friends o Festinger et al’s (1950) study of housing for married MIT students Friendships among the couples in apartment buildings Attraction and propinquity rely on physical distance but also on functional distance Functional distance – who you cross paths with the most Mere exposure effects – familiarity, things we enjoy or relate to • Exposure increases liking, unless the person or thing is actively disliked o Online interaction Socially adept extraverts may form more online friendships, especially among girls Socially awkward introverts may compensate by socializing more online (esp. boys) Face-to-face contact seems to be helpful for deepening relationships Similarity – interests, background, attitudes, values of the other person o Attitudes, values, demographics all matter in this regard o Maybe attachment style too, especially for romantic partners Reciprocal liking o Thinking one is liked by someone will tend to lead to liking o Can lead to self-fulfilling prophecies – if you believe someone likes you, you like them o Negative self-concept can lead to significant problems with relationships Physical attractiveness o The Walster et al (1966) study of orientation week dance Overriding determinant was physical attraction regardless of what else they liked o Halo effects – an impression created in one area to influence opinion in another area Misattribution of arousal – mistake inferences about what is causing them to feel o Dutton and Aron (1974) if you are on a high, scary bridge, you will be considerably aroused and may mistakenly think some of the arousal is the result of the attraction to the beautiful woman
o Misattribution of arousal can also modify shyness-related behaviours o Brodt and Zimbardo 1981 Shy women who were exposed to an unpleasant noise and led to believe this would produce unpleasant physiological effects (butterflies in the stomach, cold sweat, etc.) behaved just like non-shy women in interactions with a male confederate Forming close relationships 4 basic forms of love: passionate, companionate, compassionate, and attachment love o Companionate love: intimacy and affection o Passionate love: like companionate love, but with an obsession with the person, intense longing when the person is absent, and physiological arousal when the person is present Why love? o Basis of forming relationships o Evolutionary explanations- men and women will adopt different strategies when looking Sex differences • Female: resources and commitment • Male: fertility Attachment styles and intimate relationships Attachment theory: infant attachment to caregivers leads to lifelong expectations about what close relationships will be like Attachment styles o Secure – having trust • Tends to lead to satisfying relationships o Avoidant – suppression because intimate attempts rebuffed • Tends to lead to few relationships • Two types: fearful and dismissive o Anxious/ambivalent – concern that others will not reciprocate one’s desired for intimacy • Tends to lead to obsessiveness and conflict in relationships (which are hard to form) o Multiple attachment styles – different kinds of attachment to different people in our lives Maintaining close relationships Social exchange theory- how you perceive a relationship depends on rewards o Reward/cost ratios – balance between rewards and costs o Comparison level – expectations of rewards and costs you deserve Comparison level for alternatives – replace relationship with a better one
o Investment - things that have been put in that will be lost if one leaves Equity theory o Fairness in relationship o Under benefitted and over benefitted partners both feel uncomfortable o Exchange versus communal relationships Exchange relationships much more governed by equity than communal ones, though chronic inequity can still be a problem in communal relationships Commitment and positive illusions We convince ourselves we have the best partner – regardless of facts Commitment enhances the ability to resist attractive alternatives o Persuading oneself the alternative is not that attractive o Letting the other know that one is “taken” Commitment and forgiveness – if we are in a committed relationship we will forgive easier Idealization of the partner has its problems, especially when issues are fairly significant Ending close relationships Reasons for breaking up - Growing apart, or discovering partner is less similar than one thought, or endearing dissimilarities become less endearing over time Rewards low, costs high, appealing alternatives available Boredom How relationships end 1. Withdrawal/avoidance (ghosting) – more common for friendships 2. Positive tone – prevent hard feelings 3. Manipulative strategies 4. Open confrontation – more common for romantic relationships The experience of breaking up The dumper is typically less devasted than the dumpee Availability of attractive alternatives to self and partner influences distress Distress greater when relationship was satisfying...