Listening Exercise Reflection Paper PDF

Preview

Summary

essay...

Description

Listening Exercise Reflection Paper

Bianca Sanchez Professor Skinner Listening Exercise Reflection Paper October 19, 2018

Listening Exercise Reflection Paper

Sanchez 1

Sanchez 2

On October 18, 2018, I put two of my roommates together to do my listening exercise experiment. I decided to use roommates because I felt since they know each other and have many conversations, this would prove that talking to someone you know will make a conversation smoother, longer and less uncomfortable then speaking and having a conversation with a stranger. I wanted to see if they make eye contact, if they use hand gestures and certain bodymovents that may show it is an comfortable conversation and not a uncomfortable conversation. As this exercise started, I witnessed that I might have been wrong in certain aspects. I started to see that even if you know that person a conversation and talking to them about yourself may still lead to a uncomfortable conversation that you may not want to have.

Participant 1 (my suitemate) and Participant 2 (my roommate) sat across from each other at our kitchen table as I was sitting in the corner watching everything. I saw they were both very calm at first and they were good with eye contact. As Participant 1 was speaking, Participant 2 was calm, quiet, and just sitting there with her arms in her lap while listening to Participant 1. She didn’t interrupt Participant 1 at all. Participant 1 didn’t really know what to say, she felt like it was hard to talk to her without telling her too much information. As it was time for Participant 2 to say what Participant 1 said she froze. At first I didn’t understand why it was so hard for her to repeat things that Participant 1 said but then she stated, “I wanted to say everything like she said it, in the order she said it. I want to make sure I’m not leaving any major parts out and I don’t want to say something she didn’t say”. When she told me that I saw how nervous she was. Her facial expressions didn’t show nervousness but the way she spoke and the way she had a

Sanchez 3

shaky voice. I asked her if she was scared to repeat the information and she admitted she was. When I asked why she said, “I didn’t want to upset her because I didn’t remember something or said something I thought she said but she didn’t”. She was able to hide the nervousness until she had to speak after, her voice was shaky and she stuttered a lot. I didn’t realize that she would have been that nervous just knowing some basic information about our suit mate.

As it was time for Participant 2 to speak and for Participant 1 to listen, I saw how nervous they both got. Participant 1 admitted she was very bad with remembering information and processing it in a fast timing so she felt she was going to forget a lot of things very fast. I gave them a few minutes to get ready for the second part to see how it would calm their nerves down. They finally told me they were ready to try again but their nerves were still there. While Participant 2 was speaking, she was shaking, she couldn’t look at Participant 1 in the eye and she kept saying “umm” as she didn’t know what to say. Participant 1 was able to go head and repeat everything Participant 2 was saying with a calm relaxed voice but you can definity tell she was a little nervous while repeating what she was told. I asked them both how they felt doing the other roles and Participant 2 said it was worst. She didn’t know what to tell her and didn’t want to make eye contact because she felt she would get distracted and lose thoughts on what she was thinking and planning to say. They didn’t have bad reactions to what they heard from each other and they didn’t have bad body movements. They barely even moved or used hand gestures. I would have pictured them not being nervous and having more hand and body movements.

Sanchez 4

At the end of this experiment, I learned that even if you know the person you’ll always be nervous opening up to someone. I was proven wrong by using my two roommates and by them admitting to me that they were nervous and didn’t know what to say. I thought the conversation would have gone so smoothly and easily but it didn’t. They needed to think, they were nervous and I feel maybe no matter if you know that person or not it will always be uncomfortable to talk to that person about yourself. I am usually able to open up to someone I know and tell them some things about me with no hesitation but I guess not everyone is like that. Sometimes opening up and letting someone in even if you know them may be hard. I learning that you just because they don’t look nervous doesn’t mean they aren’t and body movement doesn’t always show nerves....