Module 10 exercises - Alane Daugherty PDF

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Cultivate Self-Empathy One difficult emotional state I would like to talk about here is the stress and anxiety that comes with financial difficulties. This is specifically for my friend who lives in Pomona California. I imagine if it was my friend dealing with this situation I think the first thing that would be happening would also be that you would be dealing with the same exact emotion to feeling of panic, the feeling of anxiousness, the feeling of being nervous, and not knowing when this financial chaos would be over especially with covid-19. You could lose your job in an instant so it's very crucial to always pick up every cent that you can get whether it's from working overtime or from some side gigs through apps like doordash or shopping for others. Now when it comes to food that could be another situation that could be affected by this, is that you always have to eat cheap food like Ramen or cheap chicken to be able to save your money for other more important things like rent or other basic necessities. I could imagine that he would constantly be scrambling around trying to find whatever job you can get whether it's part time or just a job like a janitor or something like that. in fact there would be so many negative feelings associated with this that I bet he would feel so overwhelmed and not knowing what to do you would probably be embarrassed to talk to his friends and meet up with them knowing that he probably won't be able to pay for if they go out to eat or if they go do a fun activity together. With this in mind their social skills would probably negatively impacted as well because social events involve spending money and with this financial hardship it can be extremely hard to do social events. He could probably admit it to some of his closest friends that he's broke, and he doesn't have any money and he's very overwhelmed with it and if he has good friends then his friends might be able to support them but then there comes another feeling of being too needy. He doesn't want to come off as someone who always is asking for money and is always asking for help from other people. He wants to get to the point where he can support himself with Independence. you must set clear goals on what he has to do in order to make progress towards that feeling of Independence. Some of these small goals can be starting a budget and with this budget it can help him manage his money better. it can help him realize what is his biggest money Spenders and how he can focus all this transactions on necessities. he can also motivate himself more instead of being down all the time. he will know that this is not always going to remain a problem and if he has that mindset then the feeling of accomplishment whenever you completes a small goal will be so worthwhile at the end. if he continues to have this attitude and forever thinks he'll never be able to dig himself out of this hole then where's the motivation? having that positive self-talk can lead to some wonderful things because if we're constantly influenced by what others think of us or Our Own Self Doubt then we're never going to go anywhere. And lastly stay humble because this is a very good trade to practice and keep for the rest of your life when other people see the situation that you are in and you are still remaining humble and not complaining they'll know that you have a great composure. This means that whatever life throws at you whether it's complete hell or just something basic bad happening to you that you can deal with it. This can directly affect their problems whenever they face the same situation that you are in that they’ll know that it's not the end of the world and that they can get out of it just like you did.

Cultivate Self-Compassion What my friend needs may be a difficult question. I know my friend is someone that is very humble and compassionate and he never expects anything in return. deep down in his heart he really needs someone to talk to.He needs someone he can vent his frustration with and tell them how hopeless he feels right now in this current situation. He has to constantly work overtime at his on campus job at the police station. This job requires him to be standing the entire time and directing people to the vaccination site at Cal Poly Pomona. he says that so many people have quit so far just because the job is miserable and the pay is so miniscule. While it could be easy to just say he needs money right now I believe the most important thing that he needs right now is emotional support but due to the pandemic it is very hard to meet people in person. He doesn't have many friends as well. He is an extreme introvert who finds it hard to maintain eye contact with people and just never initiates conversations. He seems to be the kind of person that loves attention but doesn't know how to ask for it or seek it in a sense. Since he is of Korean nationality many Korean people have this cultural idea built into them that signifies a very indirect attitude. This means that it's very hard to ask for something or tell someone when you feel uncomfortable. Here in America it's the complete opposite when you are uncomfortable or if you want to speak up you usually just speak up. You make your ideas known. While his friends have tried to meet up with him and talk with him many times he ignores their text messages as he can't really find the words to respond. However he has one friend in particular who is extremely worried about him. this friend gives him emotional support whenever available and meets with him on a weekly basis to just talk about life and how he views his struggles. being able to talk about this brings in joy and relief knowing that there is someone else out there that cares about him and wants him to succeed in life. There is this one meeting that we were all in and the question was how would you describe yourself? Well, everybody gave their answers and then came my friend’s reply. His reply was I think I'm a person that is shy and weak. That totally just ruin the mood of the meeting and it got pretty awkward for a little bit. However once the silence was broken we all moved on. However the fact was that he seemed to be a very selfincriminating person that just didn't have any positive talk in his mind. This is definitely a big problem that can be very hard to fix as he had been dealing with this for a long time now. The social settings he thought it was normal to be the lowest of everybody and that he had no right to be among the group. This is extremely saddening as a friend of his. What can be done in this circumstance? What can be done to improve his own self worth? his self-doubt is running his life right now. Encouragement from all the people that he knows can transform his life to the fullest. However it won't just take one time. There will be many baby steps along the way that need to be fulfilled. As the pandemic finally starts to unravel and calm down, it can be quite a journey back to normalcy for him. After talking to him, it seems that he has had no real social interaction for quite some time. He says that he just goes to work, doesn't talk to anybody during work and then goes right back home to eat and sleep and do homework. while that can be normal for us now he'll find it very hard to adjust back to having social interaction again. It will be the job of his friends and Community to bring them out of that shell and to encourage him so that he can be so successful in life....