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My Reading: Two Chairs (diminishes capacity for empathy) - Family - Friendship - Romance This section contains the meat of her argument and it was the part that was most interesting to me. What happens when we text rather than talk? In college aged kids, markers for empathy are down 40%. What does that mean in real terms? It means we are crueler, more dismissive and less tolerant of each other. In families, parents are choosing to be on their phones rather than interact with their kids, choosing to handle conflicts over text and choosing to violate their own rules like being on their phones at the dinner table. Even when they know they shouldn't. Tell me you don't relate to at least some of that -- I know I do. Kids are crowd sourcing hard decisions on Instagram, evaluating their self worth through the number of likes they get, avoiding real time phone calls like the plague, allowing phones to distract them from just about everything and, when they ARE talking with their friends, they are talking about what is happening on their phones. People are trying to find love by swiping right on Tinder, maintaining superficial branding and appearances, carefully composing and determining the timing of flirty texts and wondering within relationships whether they could "do better" with the vast array of online choices. According to Dr. Turkle, it takes 7 minutes to determine where a conversation is going, but most people today are swiping left before they can even figure that out.

Three Chairs - Education - Work In this section, Dr. Turkle addresses school and work. Despite the fact that colleges now offer a blizzard of online learning options, we are missing things from live classrooms -- real collaboration, mentorship, deep attention. And, in case you didn't already know, multitasking is a complete myth. Studies show that it makes us way less efficient. Having our devices in the classroom make us distracted, impatient and think in a more shallow way. There are similar problems in the workplace: no one is paying attention on conference calls, no one is chatting at the office cooler anymore, and everyone feels the pressure to be on the corporate messaging system and be available online at all times. The result is not good for creativity and effectiveness. A Fourth Chair? - End of Forgetting

Family: Missing chip/study of distraction

● Attention to children without phones teaches them how to react to social cues, etc ● Adults pay more attention to their phones than to their children ● If children dont use the part of their brain activated by conversing with an attentive parent, they will fail to develop appropriate circuitcy ● If children are not engaged in conversation, they will start out a step behind in their development My problems with punctuation ● “When it comes to texting a lack of fluency can divide generations and families

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Parents are choosing to be on their phones rather than interacting with their children Handle family conflicts over text Violate own rules like phones at dinner, relatable examples

Friendship -

Kids are evaluating self worth , phones to distract them from everything Phones distracting during class and 24/7 so that when they do interact with their friends it is about what is on their phones

Romance: ● ● ● ●

Technology makes it like a game (tinder, etc ) You “have to wait to respond to a text” P.187 Talking is a commitment, texting is low risk P.195 connection to solving arguments over text- know that your case is being made

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Love by swiping right or left on tinder or other dating apps Maintaining a super vicial view and branding of them selves on these types of dating apps and on social media Carefully composing when and how long to wait before responding to texts- a game Infinite choices through dating apps According to Turkle “it takes 7 minutes to determine where a conversation is going “

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however most people today are swipping right or left before they can even figure this out Education: ● Texting in class/ myth of multitasking ● P.213 , multitasking gives a neurochemical high that we are doing better and better when we are actually doing worse and worse ● “Multitasking feels good” ● Comparing drugs and screens 1 ● P.220 direct quote: “ When you train your brain to multitask……. Trouble at work sitting in a meeting and listening to colleagues.

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Despite the fact that colleges are now offering many online learning options, were missing things from live classrooms (real collaboration, mentorship, and deep attention) MULTITASKING!!!!! Complete myth : - Myth of multitasking - Studies show that it is way less efficent - Have devices= distraction and impatientness

Workplace: (has similar issues to education) -

Paying attention during conference calls…. Multitasking Pressure to be availible online at all times through corporate messaging,email,etc Result of this is not good for creativity or effectiveness Pilots in cockpits, work from home?...