Week 1 Babies - Dr. Knickerbocker, Dr. Liaw PDF

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http://www.thisemotionallife.org/blogs/if-i-had-bad-parents-will-i-be-bad-parent-too-0 Experiment: a baby is in a room with its mother, and the mother leaves, and then returns. ● Secure attachment: baby shows signs of missing their mother, and greets the mother when she comes back, and resumes playing with toys. ○ “Earned secure attachment” is when someone doesn’t have secure attachment as a child, but gets it later in life after they’ve made sense of their childhood. ● Non-secure attachment: ○ Avoidant attachment: Shows no distress when mother leaves, and no response when she returns. This usually happens if the mother (in their daily lives) only respond to the child’s physical needs, and quite their emotional needs (not very nurturing). The child behaves like this b/c they believe that the relationship they have with the mother serves no soothing nature. ○ ambivalent/anxious attachment: mother displays inconsistent nurture and is only sometimes responsive. This gives the child great anxiety. They child is distressed even before the mother leaves, and is inconsolable when the mother returns. The child does not trust the reliability of their relationship with the mother and is afraid that the mother will leave again. ■ The mother usually experienced trauma in her own childhood and believes that relationships are not important ○ Disorganized attachment: When the mother returns, the child starts going towards her, then freezes up and crumples to the ground. This happens b/c the child wants (naturally) to go near her to be protected, but is also afraid of her, making them want to pull away at the same time. ● Attachment categories are an outcome of experience with a particular caregiver, NOT because of genetics. ● These attachment behaviors usually remain the same throughout one’s life. It also impacts their relationship with other people. ● Even if you were not raised well, as long as you make sense of it and understand why it was bad (understand your life/personal narrative and gaining awareness), you can still become a good parent. If not, you might end up repeating your parent’s mistakes. ● “The key is to develop what’s called a “coherent narrative,” where we reflect on and acknowledge both positive and negative aspects of our family experiences, so we can show how these experiences led us to become who we are as adults.” https://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/06/11/the-makings-of-our-earliest-memories/ ● If children mentions an emotion while recalling a memory, it is more likely to stick. ● Also more likely to remember a memory if they are able to describe it coherently and sequentially....